i could write a daily blog on what being a care giver is like and have enough material for 20 years of every day writing. That would be self defeating because there is more to life and more to me than that. The fact is, I don't remember 20 years
of giving. There are just certain episodes that will always be in my mind. Now, I can relax . This subject is on my mind because I am re reading a book that a friend sent me about life after being a care giver. I never, until the last few years, identified
myself as a care giver. Now, I don't want that to be my label or identity.The author of that book says that he has a mission to tell everyone about care giving. Good for him, but he identifies himself as a care giver. It is what he does well. There are
people like that. I really never liked the role. But you do what has to be done, with graciousness and love, because that is the way it has to be.Now, I have answers that worked for me, but wont for the next person. Do all of the things that he writes about..
get support,ask for help,give yourself permission to take care of yourself, volunteer,go out with friends, take what ever time you need to heal. When you get to the end of the list,put on your happy clothes and get out in the world. That is where it is happening
and I don't want to miss it.