I don't want to be a downer,but this has been on my mind, so I am letting it out. There is a certain sadness that a care giver carries around.It is not depression. There is help for depression. This is a hollowness of sadness because of what is happening
and what is following. You are sad because this is not the way you thought you would spend your later years together. It is sad because when your job is over, you are by yourself, not the way you thought your later years would be. There it is.