There is this sappy TV commercial that shows a Mother and daughter and the voice over says,"She was there for you and now you are there for her". Or something like that. I am jealous. I can't remember my Mother being there for me, but I know that my
kids are here for me. So somewhere between the two, there must have been some huge epiphany involving me. Without even being aware of it, I must have learned something positive about having an aloof parent, like how to treat special people around you with
respect . I get jealous when my friends talk with such love for their Mom's. My mother was never Mom, she was Mother. I know that my kids love me when they say Moth----er, in two syllables . They are either laughing at me, or astounded that I can be so dense.
Being a Mom is special. You have to learn from all sources. Take the not so good and put a positive spin on it. So when the time comes and a kid puts their arm around me and the voice over says" she was there for you and now you are there for her", I am going
to say, "Not so fast, kiddo,I'm not done".